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 | | From: | JPF | | Subject: | Three little words... | | Date: | Thu, 13 Jan 2005 01:00:30 GMT |
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 | Three Little Words
There are many things that we can do to perk up and strengthen our
interpersonal relationships. Yet the most effective involves the saying
of just three words. When spoken or conveyed, these statements have the
power to forge new friendships, deepen old ones and restore
relationships that have cooled. The following three-word phrases can
enrich every relationship.
I'll Be There:
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to
take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some
miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase
"I'll be there." Being there for another person is the greatest gift we
can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things
happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are
restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of
civility.
I Miss You:
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples
simply and sincerely said to each other "I miss you." This powerful
affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.
Consider how ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected
phone call from your spouse in the
middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."
I Respect You:
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that
another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they
were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become close friends.
This applies to all interpersonal relationships.
Maybe You're Right:
This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and
restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe your right" is the
humility of admitting, "Maybe I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have a
heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's
point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run
the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying
"maybe you're right" can open the door to further explore the subject,
in which you may then have the
opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.
Please Forgive Me:
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people
would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are
vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be
ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in
other words, that he is wiser today than he was
yesterday.
I Thank You:
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the
companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily
courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their
many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of
friends is severely constricted often
do not have the attitude of gratitude.
Count On Me:
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an
essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that
bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be
steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there
indicating you can "count on me."
Let Me Help:
The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt
they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in
and help.
I Understand You:
People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other
person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know in so many
little ways that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools
for healing your relationship. This applies to any relationship.
I Love You:
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling
someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional
needs; the need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your
family, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words.
"I love you."
(my 3) God Bless You!
Joy <><
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